Low Self Esteem
Low Self Esteem Helped with the Thrive Programmme Wolverhampton
Low Self Esteem is when we think about ourselves as a bit ‘useless’ or have a low opinion of our abilities in general. Self esteem is the term we use to describe how we think about ourselves. It refers to how we think, the type of person we are, our abilities and what we expect for the future.
When our self-esteem is healthy, we tend to feel good about ourselves and have a positive outlook on life in general. A high self-esteem gives us the courage and strength to deal with the ups and downs in life – without them having a long-term impact on our health and well-being.
We also tend to ‘process’ our achievements more effectively on a day-to-day basis which can keep our self-esteem ‘topped-up’ resulting in a general feeling of well-being.
However, when we have low self esteem is, our thoughts and feelings about ourselves are generally negative. We are more likely to focus on our weaknesses and be overly critical of the things we do and mistakes we’ve made. Low self esteem means our entire outlook on life is affected. We are also less able to cope with everyday challenges.
Our relationships and physical health may also suffer. Seeking help is vital for ensuring long-term problems do not develop. Psychology and psychotherapy for self-esteem is an increasingly popular means of treatment and support.
Low Self Esteem V Low Self Confidence
The terms ‘low self esteem’ and ‘low self-confidence’ are often used interchangeably when we describe how we feel about ourselves. However, although self-confidence is related to self-esteem, they are two different concepts. Unlike self-esteem, self-confidence is the level of trust we have in our abilities, our sense of judgement and personal qualities.
Causes of Low Self Esteem
It is generally believed that issues with low self esteem stem from childhood learned behaviours. Our history and relationships with those around us – including our parents, friends and siblings – shape the opinion we have ourselves. We receive a combination of positive and negative messages as we grow up, but for some reason it tends to be the negative ones that stick. Feelings of not being good enough can continue into adulthood. In this respect low self esteem can be classified as a ‘leaned behaviour’ rather than a biological fact.
How we develop our self-esteem through adolescence can impact our future levels of self-worth. Our own natural personalities may also play a part. Some of us may possess personality traits that make us more susceptible to negative thought patterns about who we are and of our capabilities.
Traumatic life events such as abuse or serious illness can also cause self-esteem to plummet. Being forced into a physical or emotional position against your will can make it very hard to trust yourself or others. It can leave you feeling out of control and in your head you may have convinced yourself you were to blame in some way.
Signs of Low Self Esteem
Low self esteem affects us all in different ways. There are however common signs to look out for. If a person feels like they are inadequate or unworthy, their behaviour will reflect this. They act in a way that confirms they aren’t able to do things or aren’t very good, what is known as ‘confirmation bias’ – a leaning towards interpreting events in a way consistent with what we believe about ourselves.
Common indicators of low self esteem are:
- feeling hopeless or depressed
- feeling bored with life
- having no motivation
- lack of assertiveness
- feeling overly sensitive to criticism
- believing there’s nothing to look forward to
- thinking negatively about yourself
- feeling tired a lot of the time
- feeling like a failure
Overcoming Low Self Esteem
Overcoming low self esteem requires identifying and challenging the negative beliefs you have about yourself. Understanding how you learned them and why, can help you to unravel the significance they have in your daily life.
Taking care of your physical health, reducing stress levels and exercising can all help you build self-esteem.
Help for Low Self Esteem
Despite the fact that much of the way we think about ourselves may have originated in our early developmental years, our self esteem (and therefore our low self esteem) is never actually much older than approximately two weeks.
According to the research used during the development of the Thrive Programme, if we are able to spend a small amount if time each day processing our achievements (no matter how small we may think they are) we can have a significant and positive impact on our self esteem.
The Thrive Programme for Low Self Esteem
The Thrive Programme is unsurpassed at helping people with ‘problems’ identify and then change their limiting belief systems.
This multi-session course utilises the very latest findings in cognitive psychology and neuroscience research to help a person to understand how a limiting belief may be formed in the first place, through either ‘learned social behaviours’ or by the accumulation of ‘evidence’ based experiences that provide the robust foundations of those belief systems.
Remarkably, it turns out that what we consider to be the ‘truth’ about the ‘way the world works’ amounts to nothing more than what we ‘believe’ to be true rather than what actually is!
The Thrive Programme for Low Self Esteem will help you to gain a greater level of understanding behind the reasons why your self esteem is low and then help you to develop a range of tools and coping mechanisms to make significant improvements.
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